Were you aware that President Obama signed a bill in December that included a resolution offering “an apology to all Native Peoples on behalf of the United States”? I wasn’t.

When I surfaced from reading an article on apologies the other day, I noticed a tweet from Simon Cohen, aka globaltolerance: “Imp news: Obama apologises to Native Americans http://bit.ly/5qOGEG.” I jumped to the link and read Sean McCollum’s Teaching Tolerance article on the passage and signing of the 2010 Defense Appropriations Act last month which included an apology “to all Native Peoples for the many instances of violence, maltreatment, and neglect inflicted on Native Peoples by citizens of the United States.”

Where was this news? I searched the Web for a news story. Surely there had been coverage of this. Nothing substantial surfaced. As the Teaching Tolerance post points out, news attention was elsewhere–namely, McCollum states, on Tiger Woods and health reform.

An apology for institutionalized, horrific, and sustained transgressions against Native Americans in this country was buried in a defense bill and eclipsed in the news.

While an apology doesn’t erase transgressions–especially of this magnitude–it is important. And giving voice to the apology, to me, would make it more real. Perhaps this is a good time to revisit the power of apology and why it’s needed, and in the process build discussion–and visibility–around this apology.

According to On Apology author, Aaron Lazare, in an article in The Compassionate Instinct, “there are four parts to the structure of an effective apology…acknowledgment of the offense; explanation; expressions of remorse, shame, and humility; and reparations.” An effective, heartfelt apology can lead to forgiveness, even reconciliation, according to Lazare. To do this, he writes, it must satisfy one or more of seven psychological needs of those offended: the restoration of dignity, validation that the victim was not responsible, agreeing that the harm committed was wrong, assuring that the offended party is safe from a repeat offense, reparative justice, reparations, and dialogue between the offender and offended

While the resolution clearly makes no reparations, perhaps we can see it in the light of a work in progress and learn from it. According to Sean McCollum, “it finally owns up to this country’s record of ill-conceived, bigoted, and often sadistic treatment of Native Americans. And perhaps, like any honorable apology should, it sets the stage for making amends.”

Now if it would only get some coverage… Pass it on.

This reflection is from Thom Andrews, director of Kalamazoo’s Season of Forgiveness.

During this past weekend we again marked the life and legacy of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. The question it brought to mind for me this year was this: can forgiveness make its way into mainstream civic discourse?

One of the many unsettling dynamics in our political arena is how thin-skinned our politicians make themselves out to be (though they probably aren’t so). Individuals are quick to take great personal offense at the mere implication of a slight, and these individuals are quick to go to the media and speak of their rage. The strategy becomes not so much to rise above the fray as to become the fray that pushes down the other person.

Exceptions to this political game seem few and far between. I wonder, however, if they aren’t so few but simply less reported. One recent exception I discovered is in Malaysia where, in the wake of multiple attacks on churches, Christians and Muslims and “even politicians across the political divide” condemned the attacks. They made statements and took actions so that “an air of repentance and forgiveness prevailed.” The writer called the acts “unprecedented.”

Wisdom and maturity can prevail over shallow political maneuvering. Let’s help make this our future.

Quote for reflection throughout the week
We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. –Martin Luther King, Jr.

From the web
Here is the article describing the situation in Malaysia that I mention above.

This article echoes Dr. King’s call to disarm our enemies with love.

Last summer, while walking to one of my favorite places, the Ballard Locks, I noticed a lovely water feature in the garden that I’d not “seen” before. I’d walked by it numerous times, but missed it, totally. Even though I use these walks as a time to slow down and take in my surroundings, I’d completely missed this gem.

I’ve noticed other places around town that I’ve completely missed, too. And conversations–well, there are times that it’s not just a flagging memory that is at work. I allow myself to be distracted. Then I strain to catch the thread of the conversation.

There are so many things I’ve missed in life. I continually struggle to hold my attention in the present moment, sometimes with greater success than others. But the moments I’ve missed could–if translated to money–probably make a dent in the national debt.

It’s one of those things that’s simple to say, challenging to do. Noticing, listening, being present to each moment is like holding on to a fist full of sand–the tighter I squeeze, the more sand escapes.

In these tough times, the one thing we all have to give is our presence, our attention. Events like the earthquake in Haiti easily remind us how fleeting life is and how all we really have is the moment and our connections to others, to animals, and to nature. Right now, I renew my promise to witness the unfolding of each moment with a steady presence and when I stray, to start over again.

I watched the first program in the three-part PBS series, This Emotional Life last night. It was fascinating to see how “families, friends, and lovers” navigated the terrain of human connection–especially when it was terribly challenging. This kind of information should be taught in school–after all we spend our lives in relationship to others, yet often learn relational skills on the fly.

The series “explores improving our social relationships, learning to cope with depression and anxiety, and becoming more positive, resilient individuals. Each episode weaves together the compelling personal stories of ordinary people and the latest scientific research.” If you missed the first program, I encourage you to catch the next two, which are airing on many public television stations tonight and tomorrow at 9 p.m. (check local listings).

In an article about the series on the Huffington Post, Xavier Amador, a consultant for the series and a clinical psychologist pointed out the importance of emotions that are painful in helping us connect with one another. “When we are sad, people reach out to us and we feel the desire to be held, cared for, loved. Anxiety often has the same effect. And when we come together we can then pursue common causes such as the search for food, creating shelter, defense against predators–our genes survive and are passed on to the next generation.”

We all suffer. We all are imperfect. How best do we relate and support each other knowing this? So far, I’m finding that This Emotional Life is providing some good insights.